I’ve been quick to criticize Kim Kardashian in the past (with good reason), but I’m definitely back on Team KK these days. I love Kim and Kanye together. They’re obnoxious, they’re over-the-top, but they’re the real deal. Recently I caught a clip of Kim talking with Andy Cohen on Bravo about her brother, Rob, and it made me like her even more. We’ve all seen/read about Rob’s significant weight gain, how he floats through life without really having a career path, how he left her wedding because he wasn’t feeling confident, and his other problems. Basically, he needs to get it together. During the show, one of the viewers asked Kim why she seems to lack empathy for her brother. You can watch the clip here, but she said:

“If I don’t like something that’s going on in my life, I change it. I don’t sit and complain for a year. I try to encourage him, but once you don’t make that change for so long and it’s not happening, I get frustrated and my patience runs out.”

Khloe Kardashian Odom Celebrates Her Birthday At Chateau Nightclub And Gardens At Paris Las VegasSay what you want about Kim, but I totally respect this point of view. One of the most attractive qualities in a person, male or female, is the ability to have a vision and to go after that vision. It’s so easy to talk and talk, or to wait for “better timing” or “the right opportunity.” It’s easy to complain about bad luck or an unfortunate situation. It’s badass to take the hand you’re dealt and do something with it. 

It’s hard to support the people you care about as they stagnate. At some point it becomes infuriating. You want better for them, you know they can do more for themselves, but you can’t physically force them to go out and get it done. I’ve been in both the Kim and Rob positions, so I can see it from both angles.

If you’re in the Rob position: Think about what you really, truly want. Not what other people want for you or what you should want at this point in your life or what other people are doing. Even if it’s just something that would make you happier than you are in this moment, that works too.
Any sort of step is important in order to get you the momentum you need to make a change. 

When you’re Kimming it for someone you love, realize that at some point you have to remove yourself from the situation. You can lend your support and love, but it’s not up to you to fix or find solutions for the person’s problems. If they ask for your help, give it, but don’t continue to offer it unsolicited. Once you take a step back, you’ll feel a huge sense of relief and can be a more positive (yet passive) force in that person’s life.

How do you feel about the Kim/Rob dynamic? 


When It Comes to Love, Friendships, And Your Hair, It Just Shouldn’t Be That Hard

August 20, 2014

Catt Sadler of E! News is one of my favorite TV personalities because she’s real and inspiring and genuine. So when she posted this gem today on her Instagram, I loved her even more. I mean seriously. How true is this?:   When it comes to relationships, whether it’s of the […]

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I Found The Only Apartment Decorations You’ll Ever Need….

August 14, 2014

In a few weeks I’m moving into a one-bedroom apartment and I can’t wait. It’s my first time ever living alone, no boyfriend, no parents, no roomies, and I feel so Queen Bey. As excited as I am about being about to walk around in the nude without creating an awkward […]

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You Know That Thing That Makes You Love That Person? Tell Them.

August 12, 2014

God I’m so sad about Robin Williams. I seriously feel like a friend died. He was such a talented entertainer, and seemed like a genuinely sweet guy. But his death got me thinking: when someone dies, people come out with these beautiful tributes to the person. There are so many articles […]

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When I Go on a Really Bad Date, I Honestly Just Feel Bad for My Mom

August 10, 2014

My poor mother. The lady wants to plan a wedding and have some grandkiddos. I’m an only child and so she has to depend on me to make this happen. Unfortunately, I’m in the “kissing a lot of frogs” stage of the game, thus making these two events nearly impossible. I’m […]

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Maybe It’s Time to Abandon the “He’s Just Not That Into You” Mindset

August 7, 2014

I spent the last few days recovering from getting my wisdom teeth yanked (yuck), which left me with plenty of time to sleep, eat ice cream and soup, and think. While I wasn’t usually conscious for more than an hour at a time, I did spend some time thinking about […]

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On Sushi, Wine, and Major Life Changes

July 28, 2014

*Sidenote: Life with Lauren is about to get a little facelift. It’s been a few years, and it’s much needed! I’ll still be posting regularly, and it’ll come back looking fresh to death* I’m scared of a lot of things. These things include: Cockroaches Rollercoasters Burglars Spiders Sharks My parents’ […]

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Can’t Sleep? You Need a FitBit. Seriously.

July 23, 2014

I requested a FitBit for my birthday, mostly because I work from home and was concerned that I’m sitting in front of a computer for too long every day. I knew the FitBit would help track my steps and give me a better sense about just how active (or not) […]

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The Dating Rules You Have to Ignore (Seriously, They’re Stupid)

July 18, 2014

There are all kinds of unspoken rules when you’re dating, and personally, I think (for the most part) they’re dumb and outdated. Let’s get rid of them. Some of the rules you hear about a lot include: If you’re the lady, you let the guy text you first Guys are […]

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We Can All Use a Reminder to Just Step Back and Soak it All In

July 17, 2014

If you watched the ESPYs last night, you caught a highly moving and emotional speech from ESPN anchor Stuart Scott, who’s fighting cancer for the second time. If you missed the speech, you can watch it here.  I’m embarrassed to admit that I spent a large chunk of yesterday in […]

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