Lately I’ve developed a moderate to serious obsession with The Office. If you’ve read my earlier post on me not being a bandwagoner, you will not be shocked to learn that I didn’t watch The Office when it first debuted/became popular, which explains why I am just developing my obsession now. I think the show is so well-written, and extremely relatable (especially if you work in an office). I also have a serious crush on Jim Halpert.
Jim Halpert is good-looking, witty and seems like the nicest guy on the planet. He also seems like a real romantic. Yes, I know he’s not a real person. It’s fine. I love Jim’s quirky facial expressions, his cunning responses to Michael’s antics and his “aw, shucks” attitude. He is not cocky (even though he’s handsome and funny), and he’s seemingly unaware of his charm. He is just the boy next door who every girl wants to date. Love him.
Once you know about my extreme crush on Jim, you’d assume that I LOVE him and Pam together, right? Wrong. Maybe there’s something wrong with me, but I enjoyed Jim pursuing Pam MUCH more than I enjoy Jim WITH Pam. Do other people feel this way? In fact, I’d even go so far as to say that I think Jim and Pam are unhealthy in their relationship at times. I know I’m not completely finished with the series, but I’ve seen enough to stand by my position.
1.) Jim and Pam spend most of their day flirting and playing practical jokes: My boyfriend and I work in the same office. Yes, there are times when we pop in to the other person’s area to see each other. But we most certainly do not spend the majority of the day flirting, giggling, and playing jokes on our bizarre co-worker. We spend most of the day….doing our jobs. The fact that Jim and Pam screw around all the time makes me think that they don’t care about their jobs or career advancement. I know that Jim ends up advancing eventually, but if he spent half as much time making sales and learning new techniques as he does with Pam, he would probably advance a lot faster.
2.) They don’t care about workplace ethics: When you work in the same office as your significant other, it is not really appropriate to remind everyone that you’re dating. My boyfriend and I go to lunch together, but we are very careful about constantly sending the ” HEY, WE GO OUT!” signals. It makes people uncomfortable, and it’s not very professional or appropriate for the workplace. I think Jim and Pam’s relationship is often a distraction, and comes up in conversation quite frequently among the other co-workers. It would be much more professional if they were more low-key. The other co-workers should almost be able to forget that they are dating.
3.) Pam gave up her art dreams for Jim: I understand how hard long distance relationships are. I write about them for The College Crush. I understand that sacrifices need to be made for relationships. But I lost respect for Pam (yes, a fictional character) when she couldn’t finish one more semester of art school because she missed Jim and wanted to return to Scranton. Yeah, she claimed it was because she didn’t end up liking it that much. I didn’t believe it. You KNOW she didn’t long to return to Dunder Mifflin and make copies for Dwight. I think that Pam based most of her decision on Jim. And I don’t like that. Jim encouraged Pam to stay, which was good on his part. But she still returned to her boring desk job. I think the healthiest of relationships are ones in which you can grow and better yourself as an individual. I know it’s easier said than done, but I think it’s true. I give Jim props for encouraging Pam to finish, even if it meant he’d have to spend more time away from her. I think Pam should have stayed true to herself and her dreams and finished up the semester, even if it meant doing long distance for a few more months. If she truly didn’t like it, then she should have come home. I think that was just an excuse.
4.) Pam and Jim started while Pam was taken/rebounding: I realize that Roy was a jerk and a loser and Pam should not have been with him. But I don’t think it’s good to start a relationship when one person is in the process of ending another one, or is still getting over another one. Especially when that relationship was about to lead to a wedding. It would be one thing if Roy and Pam were just casually dating, but they were about to get married! It was serious! I know Jim had undying love for Pam, and it was pretty clear that feeling was mutual. Despite all that, I still think Jim should have backed off, given Pam space and time to get over Roy, and then when she was done with that they could have gotten together. No relationship should start when another is ending. No relationship should start as a rebound, even if there is true love involved.
I know that these two are not real people, and their relationship is part of a television script. However, I think my complaints about their relationship are legitimate. What do you guys think? How do you feel about this famous TV couple?