The Gwen Stefani Effect

This past weekend, my boyfriend had three friends in town for a visit. That’s a lot of testosterone for a little apartment, but luckily his friends are the bomb dot com (yeah, I’m still trying to make that happen) so it was a great weekend. As I’ve talked about, I have somewhere between 1 and 3 girlfriends living in my city. It just so happened that all three girlfriends were out of town this past weekend. That meant that it was just me and the boys. Originally, I will admit, this idea made me nervous. Here’s why:

a.) I didn’t want to be the annoying girlfriend who ruins man time. You know when Kate Hudson breaks up poker night in How to Lose a Guy in Ten Days because she comes over with the love fern? Yeah, I didn’t want to be that girl. I understand the importance of man time and didn’t want to ruin it. I solved this problem by hanging out with the guys a lot, but also giving them their space (for instance when they wanted to watch Jackass 3 in 3D. Noooo thanks. I’ll go read Tina Fey’s Bossypants). I also never pulled the squealy girl card. Some (not all, but some) girls see a group of guys and immediately start ending all their sentences with questions marks (“Oh my god I love that show too?!”) and become uber-girly. I didn’t go into that mode. That mode is annoying and not natural. Nobody wants to hang out with a girl who is like that, and I don’t know why some girls feel that this is the best way to blend in with a group of guys.

b.) I like having a partner in crime. All throughout college, I went out on the weekends with a solid squad of great ladies. I’m definitely not a sorority girl, but I also don’t trust girls who say they don’t get along well with other girls. I love my girl friends and miss them a lot. Because of this, going out as the only girl is weird for me. Yeah, I can go to the bathroom alone. I’m a grown up. But it’s just so much more FUN to bring along your friend. Yeah, I can decide what to wear on my own. I have a brain and eyeballs. But it makes the night so much more EXCITING when you get together and help each other decide what to wear. Even if you already have the outfit picked out in your head. Anyway, there was nothing I could do about being Gwen Stefani for the weekend (aka the only girl with a bunch of guys) so I embraced it

and actually really enjoyed it. Now I get the Gwen Stefani appeal. It’s fun to be able to have a laid back night with some great guys. Yeah, I had to go to the bathroom alone and had to trust my instinct about whether to wear jeans or a dress. But I also enjoyed myself immensely. Gwen had the right idea.

The night out was definitely different from any night out I’d had in college, when I was always with my gaggle (yeah I said it) of girlfriends. However, it was definitely a great night. I would highly recommend Gwen Stefani-ing it, if you have a chance. Also, huge plus if your guy has great friends. It says a lot about him. Plus it means you don’t have to get stuck hanging out with a-holes. Props to C for having good taste in buddies.

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