The First Post of 2012

Happy New Year! I hope you had a great evening with people you love. I have to say, I have had two back-to-back great New Year’s Eves and that is pretty impressive. I used to think New Year’s Eve was the most overrated holiday of them all. Maybe I’m changing my tune. I think the strategy is to aim your expectations low and not get too hung up on details. This year, Chris and I went with some of each of our friends from high school to the downtown area in our city. It was inexpensive yet really fun to see everyone. We had a great time.

Today I slept for most of the day, dealt with a few unexpected work crises (good word, right?), and then spent a solid chunk of time writing down my New Year’s resolutions. I realized that I always come up with these resolutions and then by the time the next year rolls around I don’t remember what they were so I can’t figure out if I’ve actually stuck to them. That’s why I wrote them down this year. This will also be a good way to force myself to stick to them, because they’re sitting there in writing. I came up with a handful of resolutions (not too many or you won’t stick to any of them) but here are a few:

1.) Write things down: I used to keep a journal when I was in middle school and I always have fun reading over it and remembering what I thought/felt and what mattered to me at that time. When I looked at my journal to write down my resolutions today, I saw that I had written a few things in college and it was so interesting to read what I was thinking at the time. I want to start writing things down again. Even if it’s not long entries, I want to write down fun moments I’m experiencing, problems I’m struggling with, and things I want to accomplish so I can read over it years from now and remember exactly where I was at in 2012.

2.) Get rid of negativity: I really want to focus on the positives this year, and to do this I know I need to get rid of negative people and things in my life. If something/someone is causing unnecessary stress then it’s time to re-think that person/thing’s importance in my life. Going along with this, I give you resolution #3:

3.) Get off of Facebook: My job relies heavily on social media, so I can’t delete my Facebook but I’m definitely going to be less Facebook active. I’ve realized that Facebook can be a breeding ground for negativity, and I don’t want that influence on me anymore. I’m also realizing that sometimes I’m so worried about posting things to Facebook that I forget to actually live. No good. I think Facebook is great for keeping people connected. But I don’t think it’s great when we’re so concerned with how our lives look on Facebook that we distort things and create an alternative universe for ourselves just so our casual acquaintances will be impressed. No more of that for me.

4.) Just be happy: I get really hung up on small details or what will happen in the future and cause myself to stress out so much that it ruins my day-to-day happiness. I’m not going to do that anymore. I’m going to focus more on the positive, good things that I have going on and find a way to change or minimize the negative ones. Life is WAY too short to be stressed out and full of anxiety all the time.

 5.) Learn something new: I’d been learning to play guitar for a little while but stopped. I want to get back into it again, and I want to start singing again, which I wrote about here. I think learning a new skill is energizing and so fun and I definitely want to do it this year.

6.) Have “two-way street” friendships: I wrote in this post about maintaining friendships after college. This year I want to figure out which of my friendships are “two-way streets” and put the most time and energy into building those friendships. I want to focus on friendships where I’m giving as much energy as I’m receiving from the other person. Sometimes I’ll get off the phone with a friend and realize that I spent the conversation offering that person advice which she will never take. I don’t want to do that anymore. Friendships need to be a give and take with an equal emphasis on both people. I want to spend more time growing these “two-way street” friendships and less time on friendships that are more unbalanced. I’m not saying get rid of them, just readjust my focus.

7.) Keep blogging/writing: It’s hard to believe that this blog isn’t even a year old. It’s such a huge part of my life and I’m so appreciative of everyone who reads it. I want to keep growing the blog and doing more writing this year.

What do you think of these resolutions? Do you think they’re do-able? Did you make any New Year’s resolutions? Do you usually stick to them?

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  1. […] year. I’d recommend it, even if you’re not normally a journal writer. Here’s what I wrote about in last year’s New Year’s post. This year my resolutions involve going with the flow. I spent so much time in 2012 trying to figure […]

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