Things I Learned About Big Goals

I had one of the most inspiring days ever yesterday after doing the Make Sh*t Happen webinar I was telling you about with life coach and generally inspirational lady Jenny Blake. During the webinar, Jenny broke down the eight rules you need to follow to accomplish any big goal. She explained that some people come to her with dreams of losing weight, some want to run a marathon, some want to start their own business, and some want to quit their jobs to pursue their hobbies. No matter what your goal, you need to follow the same set of steps. She explained that she’s accomplished several big goals in her life, and she realized that she did so by following these steps. Here they are:

1.) Declare your dream: 
Admit it to yourself and a few trusted people. You don’t need to necessarily shout it from the rooftops, but be honest with yourself about what you want. I totally agree with this step. I used to hide my passion for writing and feel like I was doing something sneaky or wrong by trying to run my blogs at night. Then I realized that I should be proud about my writing and as long as I’m doing my day job well I have nothing to be ashamed of. Once I started telling people about my writing and admitting to myself that this is my true passion, I felt ten tons lighter. I felt like I was actually closer to achieving my dreams instead of just thinking about them on my own time.

2.) Build a support network: Find people who can offer support and advice as you work towards your goal. But Jenny also mentioned that you need to be aware that not everyone will see your vision right away, and that’s okay. Don’t let that discourage you. She also told us about a great website called, which acts as a progress checker. You can have it send you an e-mail periodically (you set the interval) and you respond to the automated prompt with a progress report. This makes you feel more accountable and therefore encourages you to work harder and more diligently toward your goal. It’s easy to give up on marathon training. But when you have someone checking in on you (even if it’s an automated service) every month, you’ll feel more guilty if you just quit.

3.) Vision and purpose: This is something I struggle with, so I’m definitely going to focus on this aspect of the whole process. Jenny emphasized that a lot of the time when you’re starting out on a goal it’s easy to get caught up in the details. How will I make money? How will I afford insurance? All of that stuff will fall into place, but first you need to fully nurture the actual dream/idea. If you get too bogged down in practical details you’ll get discouraged and probably quit. That’s a buzzkill. Focus on the creative aspects first. I was so glad she said this because normally when I think about being a writer the first thing that pops into my head is, “But how will you afford health insurance!?” Why is this immediately what I think of? I don’t know. Instead of worrying about that I need to stay focused on creating great content and building readership. I need to figure out what I’m all about, what the blog is all about, and where I want it to go. The details will take care of themselves.

4.) Bulldoze your barriers: This goes along with the last idea. To help get rid of your fear and anxiety, Jenny suggests writing down concerns as they pop into your head. Realize that any small step you can take is better than nothing. You may not see the progress you’re making right away, but slowly it will add up. Jenny then used one of my all-time favorite quotes “Action is the antidote to despair.” Love it. It’s so true. Sitting around worrying about things is a complete waste of energy. Taking even the smallest step will make you feel a million times better than sitting there worrying about it ever could. She also emphasized that you should act as if you’ve already accomplished your goal. Picture it in your mind. It will help make it more real and help you feel more confident.

 5.) Don’t just dream, do: Make a plan and start. Small progress is still progress. Instead of just saying, “This will never work. I will never make money.” or ” I will never lose weight.” find a way to frame it as a question. For example: “How can I find a way to make money?” or “How can I find a realistic and healthy way to lose weight?”

6.) Grind: This is a pretty obvious one. To get a goal accomplished, you need to bust your behind. Put in some serious hours working towards your goal.

7.) Survive the dip: Get through the point of not knowing what you’re doing. Jenny emphasized that at some point everyone feels like they don’t know what they’re doing and will never accomplish their goal. Get past it and work through it. Let yourself suck for a little while and then slowly you’ll get better. You won’t always be super pumped to be working towards your goal. You’ll probably feel like giving up. But if you’re truly committed then that will override your urge to quit.

8.) Celebrate! When you accomplish something, take time to enjoy it before you move on to the next task. It’s easy to be so focused that you forget to take a step back and feel pride, so make sure that you actually celebrate and enjoy your accomplishments.

I can’t even tell you how helpful and amazing this webinar was. Jenny is offering a class where she goes further into explaining these eight principles. You can register here.  I would also highly recommend subscribing to her blog. It’s full of good stuff.

What do you want to accomplish this year? Remember, time to own your goals and be honest about them. Now’s the time to start. Start by leaving me a comment and let me know what you’re dreaming about!

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