The Value of a Love Letter

I just wrote this post for The College Crush called “The Value of a Love Letter” and I’m really proud of it and hope you’ll check it out! I really, truly believe that a little love note (even a three sentence deal) is a huge boost for a relationship! If you haven’t written your significant other a note to tell him/her why he/she is great in a while, do it now! Seriously! Here’s the first part of the post so you can read why it’s so important:

Today I decided to clean out my Gmail inbox. It was a mighty task. I had nearly 3,000 messages that needed to be sorted through. As I was nearing the end of the massive amounts of e-mail (so refreshing when it was done), I got to some messages that made me nostalgic. They were from when my boyfriend and I had just started dating and I was studying abroad in London. Since we couldn’t just go out together or stay in and rent movies, we had to rely on Skype and e-mail to build a foundation for our new relationship. People thought we were crazy for beginning a relationship right as I was going abroad, but the circumstances actually ended up benefitting us. When you first start dating someone, it’s easy to get so caught up in the physical stuff that you forget to talk and create a closeness between the two of you. When you’re stuck with e-mail and Skype, you have no choice but to get to know each other on a more, shall we say, “intellectual” level. Even though my semester abroad was nearly three years ago, I still cherish the e-mails (and hand-written letters) my boyfriend and I sent each other while I was in London. They’re special and romantic. It’s also fun to re-read what was going on in each of our lives at the time. It’s like reading an old diary, except I don’t have to roll my eyes at my own dramatic tales of boys who don’t return my affections or bitchy girls in math class. Click here to read the rest.

I realized I haven’t linked to my College Crush columns in a while, so let me fix that. Here is a piece I wrote called “What Do Your Relationships Say About You?” This one talks about a “lightbulb” moment I had last week. Here’s the first part of that one:

The other day I was talking with my co-worker when I had one of those “Holy sh*t” moments. If I were a cartoon character, a big ole lightbulb would have gone off over my head. My co-worker was telling me about his friend’s girlfriend. Girlfriend hates all of her man’s friends and doesn’t want him to spend time with them. I said I couldn’t imagine dating someone if I hated their friends. It would make the relationship uncomfortable and it would make it hard for my significant other. Also, what does it say about your guy if you truly believe that he hangs out with terrible people?

My co-worker agreed. He then told me that he had once heard the idea that everyone is a combination of the five people they spend the most time with. This is where I had my lightbulb moment. At the heart of it, I probably always knew this concept. Why else would your parents be so concerned with who you hung out with in high school?  But actually thinking about this concept is fascinating.

Take your three best friends, your boyfriend, and your roommate. You’re a combination of their personalities. How do you feel about that? If you mashed the five of them into one person, what would that person be like? Because that type of person is slowly shaping you, even if it’s in a subtle way. If we truly are a reflection of the five people we hang out with the most, it’s important to consider who we are allowing into our lives. Are you being influenced by a Debbie Downer? Are you influenced by a drama queen? Hopefully you’re being influenced by someone who is driven and compassionate. Click here to read the rest.

Thanks for checking them out! I love writing for The College Crush. Lots of good stuff on there, so take a peek if you have a minute. Is there anything you’d like to see me write about in a future column? Let me know!

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