When You Don't Know What To Do, Just Do Something

I’ve tried some different strategies as I’m moving through my quarter life crisis. I think step 1 is identifying that I am, in fact, having a quarter life crisis. That’s a big step. Step 2 is trying to get involved with hobbies and activities so I don’t just sit on my couch waiting for Breaking Bad season 4 to appear on Netflix (anyone know when this will happen?) and thinking, “Oh my God. What am I doing?” over and over. I’m taking a tap dance class and I take weekly guitar lessons. These are both very good. Productive and happy times come from these lessons. But greater life clarity and certainty don’t. And that’s okay. I’ve also finally begun talking to people about my general state of confusion and unsettledness. This has helped a lot, and I probably should have done it sooner. I think there’s a big difference between people who just complain and people who talk to get advice and share experiences. I’m trying to be person #2, and I hope my friends understand this. I’ve gotten some great advice from a few friends and my cousin, and it’s helped.

I’m also trying to get outside of my own head a little bit. I’m trying to read, and I’m forcing myself to keep blogging even when I can’t quite figure out what I want to say. Today I was playing around on Twitter, when I saw something that Rev Run tweeted (I know, but hear me out) that made a lot of sense. He wrote the following:

If you don’t know what to do, keep going! #thatsaplan

It sounds so simple, but it’s great advice. Right now, I literally have no idea what I’m doing. I don’t know what my plan is. I’ve been out of college for two years and I don’t know where I want to live next or what I want to be doing when I move there. It feels like everyone I know is getting engaged, but the very idea of that makes me want to break out in hives. When I think about these things, life seems daunting. It makes me not want to do anything, and instead just sit in my bed and panic and maybe hyperventilate a little bit.  While that may make things seem better temporarily, Rev Run is right. The real solution is to just keep going. Yeah, I don’t have a plan. It’s totally fine. You just have to keep moving. If you’re like me and feeling a little unsettled and confused, that’s the trick. Literally, do something, anything, and you will make progress. I’ve realized that I keep thinking that I have to make huge changes in my life to be satisfied. Maybe I do at some point. But little changes and small actions are just as helpful as huge, drastic leaps. Which is good because sometimes huge leaps aren’t possible, or take some time. But it’s that forward motion that counts. As Joan Baez once said,”Action is the antidote to despair.” She is 100% right. Even if you don’t know exactly what you’re doing, doing something feels so much better than just sitting around waiting for something to happen to you.  Ya dig? Okay, pretend I didn’t say that. But seriously…know what i mean?



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