What Kim Kardashian Taught Me About My Life Plans

I have a weird habit. I always count the hours of sleep I’ll get when I’m getting into bed. I figure out how many hours of sleep I’ll get if I fall asleep right that second. It’s a weird little quirk, but I’ve always done it.

Sadly, a recent episode of “Keeping Up with the Kardashians” (I know, I know) got me thinking even more about this idea. In the episode, Kim takes a break from having Kanye give her closet a makeover –thank God he brought her new clothes, she never could have bought that stuff on her own!–to take Khloe to a fertility doctor. Khloe was investigating why she was having a hard time getting pregnant and Kim was looking into freezing her eggs. The doctor was talking about how fertility drops at 25 and drops even more drastically at 30. Obviously, this kicked my “counting” idea into high gear.

“Okay, so it takes probably two years to plan a good wedding.” Seeing as how I don’t want to get engaged tomorrow, it’s safe to say that you can push this timeline back even further, but let’s just roll with it. So then I’m 26. Then I went two years or so kid-free. That means I’m trying to get pregnant at 28. If I want two or three kids, that might be pushing it.

And this, my friends, is why I can’t sleep at night.

When you start making a timeline like that, it makes you feel like you’d better go buy yourself a ring and throw it at your boyfriend so he proposes, regardless of whether you’re ready to get married. If you’re single, it makes you want to run out onto the street, find the nearest guy, and tie the knot. While I enjoy planning, I’ve realized timelines are not always your friend.

When you’re in your twenties and are just getting your career off the ground, it’s nearly impossible to predict how the next few years will pan out. Daydreaming about the future is fun and exciting, but planning your future to death only makes you stressed out when you don’t hit certain markers on the timeline you keep in your head.

I think this problem plagues women more than the guys because we’re the ones who have to put careers on hold to physically have the babies. In an era where it takes longer and longer to get a career started, it seems that women are less willing to put careers that they’ve worked so long for on hold in order to have kids. Hence, women are having kids later in life. This is all my philosophy of course. I could be wrong.

Whether my theory on reproduction is right or not, I know one thing: overplanning your life is not good. It makes you panicky and it makes you feel like there’s a ticking clock following you everywhere you go. Your biological clock, if you will.

Instead of saying “Oh @#$! I’m turning 25. Is he going to propose? Do I want him to propose.”

Or perhaps

“Oh @#$! I’m turning 25 and I don’t have a boyfriend! What am I going to do!?”

It’s better to focus on the moment you’re in. If you’ve got a career goal you’re passionate about, pursue it. If you’re working to find that thing you love, keep searching. Wherever you are in life, work within that moment and don’t force yourself to feel pressure because of an age you hit or what you see other people doing. if you’re constantly worrying about what’s to come, you won’t enjoy what you’re actually living. This is something I’m really working on getting better at, so I figured I’d share.

How do you feel about timelines? Are you a planner or are you good about taking things as they come?

 

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  1. Sometimes I get into a panic about planning the rest of my life too. Especially since many of my friends/classmates/acquaintances are getting married. It makes me feel like I am wrong for not wanting to get married yet, but hello! I am only 24. I think some people get caught up in thinking they need to be married and have kids ASAP, but I am just trying to enjoy the moment and the age I’m at right now.

    • That’s exactly my thought process, Alyssa. We’re young and we have plenty of time to get married and settle down. It’s important to just enjoy things as they come. It’s easy to get caught up in what other people are doing, but I agree with you that it’s important to just enjoy where you are in your life.

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