When It Comes To Relationships, Take What Kim Kardashian Says And Do the Opposite

When it comes to Kim Kardashian, I have mixed feelings. Very mixed feelings. On the one hand, the woman is (whether you’d like to admit it or not) pretty savvy when it comes to marketing. She took what was a big “whoopsy” moment and used it to launch her family into superstardom. If that had happened to most of us, we would have changed our names and hid from the world for a few years. I give her credit for that. She knows how to build and maintain a brand, while making lemonade out of lemons.

On the other hand, it appears as if girlfriend’s growth is emotionally stunted. When it came to the Kris Humphries situation, I knew that their marriage was screwed. It was pretty obvious. She was in love with herself and the idea of a big wedding, and wanted any (semi-famous) man to fill the role of her husband. She got it and then it blew up, but I had hoped that she had learned something from her 72-day marriage. Then all of a sudden I read this quote that she offered up in an interview to Cosmopolitan:

I saw fast marriages like Khloe and Lamar’s and that was what seemed to work,” Kardashian tells the mag for its April issue. “[Now] I say give it a good six months before you commit. Feelings change, even if it seems so lustful.

Seriously? Seriously. Apparently we have learned nothing here. I know sometimes couples explain that when they met, they just knew it was right. Call me skeptical, but somehow I just find that idea hard to believe. I think it takes an extended period of time to truly get to know someone. Sure, after six months you know their basic personality. You know their likes and dislikes. But you don’t really know them. You’re both still on your best behavior. In fact, just yesterday one of my college roommates (who is visiting me! Yay!) reminded me that I used to shower and get all done up every single time before I saw Chris, even if we were just hanging out and watching a movie. Now I still put in effort, but there are Sundays when I’ll lounge around until the mid-afternoon without dealing with personal hygiene. Things change. No more honeymoon phase, life gets real.

In the beginning of a relationship, you still don’t understand the other person’s little quirks. You don’t know how they act on vacation. You don’t know about their childhood experiences that have shaped who they are today. You don’t really know the things that they’re scared of deep down, or the dreams that they want so badly that they’re afraid to even talk about. Those things come later, with trust and hours of deep conversation.

Yeah, maybe sometimes “you just know” but I think a relationship that is built to last is one that moves slowly, and is allowed time to breathe and develop.

What do you think about Ms. K’s statement? Do you think a relationship can blossom quickly or does it need more time?

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