Sorry, just had to throw a Breaking Bad reference in there. You know how it is. Anyway, you’ve probably seen that cliche poster that may have been hanging in your elementary school that went something like this: “Attitudes are contagious, is yours worth catching?”
Yeah it’s super cheesy, but I’m realizing that the sentiment is spot on. And it’s not just attitudes, it’s emotions too.
I’m especially susceptible to catching other people’s emotions, for better or for worse. A co-worker is panicked? I’m panicking too even if I don’t really know why. A friend is feeling really bummed and pessimistic about something? I’ll leave lunch feeling sort of “blah” for no real reason. While this can be a good
thing (other people’s excitement and positivity wears off on me) I’m really making a conscious effort to not let myself be shaped so drastically by how other people are feeling. It’s important to occasionally take a step back and take a look at how you’re feeling and why. WHY are you so stressed? Is it because everyone around you is? Remember that just because they’re panicking, doesn’t mean you need to be. Are all your friends ranting about how men suck and they’ll never get married? You’ve probably had your fair share of struggles, but doesn’t mean that you have to stop giving up hope about finding the right match for you.
It’s great to support your friends and help your co-workers through an issue, but make sure that your emotions are actually an accurate reflection of how you feel and aren’t just coming from your environment. Understanding this and getting good at it (easier said than done, I know) can help to keep your feelings more stable and positive all-around.