I’ve written about this interview that Chelsea Handler did for The Conversation before, but I rewatched it last night and was just as impressed as I was the first time around. She is so eloquent and down-to-earth. You feel like she’d be fun to hang out with, and not one of those people who feels the need to show off because she can.
One of the points that Chelsea drives home during the interview is about how women regularly treat each other horribly, especially in business. She says:
“So many women are so competitive and they’re so jealous. They don’t realize that there’s a space for everybody.”
I‘m always amazed by how mean and cruel women are to each other. It’s as if one woman’s accomplishments equal a setback for another person. When one female gets a promotion, others have snarky remarks to make. Someone’s new boyfriend is automatically not up to par. It’s so much easier to be catty to a guy friend’s new girlfriend than it is to welcome her into the circle. Male managers have been known to welcome male employees into a “boys’ club” of sorts, but female managers often want nothing to do with mentoring their young employees, when they could be making sure that more women get into management positions later on.
Of course, this isn’t the case with every woman. There are plenty of ladies (like Chelsea) who are more than happy to give other women a shot. But for every Chelsea, there’s a woman who is finding ways to outdo or embarrass another girl.
It’s sad, but it’s a pretty common reality. Regardless of the field you’re in or your role at work, it’s important to focus on trying to help out fellow women. An accomplishment for her is not a negative for you. It’s not easy being a woman, particularly in business, so I’m all for trying to support each other as much as we can.