The other day I noticed a spike in my traffic coming in from Buzzfeed and I was confused. Then I realized it related to this post called “Don’t Be the Girl Who Didn’t Go To Paris.” I had written the post right in the thick of contemplating my move to Charlotte. I was so torn and remember having many sleepless nights as I hemmed and hawed trying to figure out what to do. In the post, I explain that I just didn’t want to be known as the girl who didn’t to go to Paris. It was a reference to Lauren Conrad on “The Hills.” She passes up an amazing internship opportunity in Paris to spend the summer at the beach with Jason Wahler (a thought that’s LOL-worthy now). I didn’t want to miss a great chance because I was afraid or had doubts or silly reasons for not wanting to go through with it.
It’s crazy to me that eight months later, I can officially say that I went to Paris. I’m here. And it’s great. When you’re in the heart of the decision-making process, big choices can be gut-wrenching. They can feel insurmountable and nearly impossible to make. I don’t care whether you’re thinking about moving, going back to school, or getting an apartment on your own. No matter how good your reasoning and logic may be, you’re probably finding a way to doubt yourself and do what’s comfortable. I know just days before I was set to move I was sure I’d have to back out.
But now, looking back on it, I can’t believe I ever questioned the move to Charlotte. Deep down I knew exactly what I needed to do, I was just scared to make it happen. I’m no expert in major life choices, but my advice to you is this: Don’t be the girl who didn’t go to Paris, whatever your version of Paris may be. Start your business, go back to school, quit that horrible job, end a toxic friendship. Just do it. If you’ve been thinking about it enough, it has value in your mind and is worth trying. When you make intelligent, well thought out decisions that your gut supports, it’s highly likely that the choice will be the right one.