I (like many, many other people) watched Beyonce and Jay-Z perform together last night at the GRAMMYs and was blown away (per usual) by their chemistry. It’s so clear that they’re crazy about each other. They respect each other on both a personal and professional level, and they’re truly a team. That got me thinking: everyone deserves to find the Jay-Z to their Beyonce. You deserve that person who will be a partner to you in every aspect of your life. They should support your business goals and your future plans. They should think you’re really, really sexy and believe in your talent. I don’t care whether you’re a pop star or a teacher or a vet. Everyone deserves someone who thinks they’ve scored out of their league by being with you.
The idea of being alone can be really, really scary. So to fight off this scary feeling, it’s easy to stick with someone who treats you okay but not Jay-Z/Beyonce level. They’re not bad to you, per say, but they don’t really make you feel as if you can conquer the world. You may feel the need to justify your worth to them, or to remind them of why you’re great. Stop it. Don’t accept that for yourself. Somewhere out there, there’s someone who thinks you’re the greatest, most talented, attractive, funny person they’ve ever met. It may take some time to find them, but they’re there. And you don’t need to be wasting time with someone who makes you feel “meh” while you wait. You’re not “meh” and you should only associate with people who realize that. That goes for romantic relationships and friendships too. Never waste time with people who make you feel less than superb.
Also: before you can find someone who believes that everything about you is top-notch, you have to believe this about yourself. If you question your own level of appeal, it’ll be hard to carry yourself with the confidence necessary to find the Jay-Z to your Beyonce. You may get tripped up and settle because you don’t have the sense of self-worth necessary to attract the right people. Don’t do that and don’t let yourself fall for that trap.
When you know your value, you’ll only surround yourself with people who see it too.
If it isn’t a “Crazy in Love”, GRAMMY-worthy romance then what’s the point? Life is too short.