I’m afraid that dating is starting to become a lost art. We’re in a world where 1 a.m. texts and “I’m watching the game with my friends at this bar, want to join?” are starting to become the norm and “Want to get a drink/dinner/coffee at this date and time?” is becoming less common. We’re sending dozens and dozens of text messages and creeping on each other’s Instagram pages instead of actually sitting across from someone at a table and asking them questions. We’re interpreting Snapchats and emojis. And that makes life complicated.
But I’m here to tell you one thing: you deserve a real date.
You deserve someone who wants to make plans with you in advance, and not just when they realize they’re hungry so they text you at 6 p.m. asking you if you want to get dinner. You deserve someone who wants to meet up with you at a reasonable hour in a place that isn’t your apartment or their apartment. You deserve someone who wants to go out and experience things with you, and who will offer to pick up the bill, even if you fight them on this.
It’s easy to say that people just don’t date like this anymore, that dating in the traditional sense is done. It’s not. It doesn’t have to be and you can’t let it be. And if someone tries to tell you it is, find someone else who believes in old school dating. You deserve someone who sees the value in building a relationship this way, and who wants to put in the effort to get to know you on a deeper, non-text message, pre-midnight level.
You’re worth it. They’re worth it. We’re all worth it!
P.S. If you get a second, I’d loveeee it if you’d go check out my latest post for Hello Giggles. If you’ve ever made a friend in line for the bathroom at the bar, this one’s for you.