Hey! You Deserve a Real Date.

I’m afraid that dating is starting to become a lost art. We’re in a world where 1 a.m. texts and “I’m watching the game with my friends at this bar, want to join?” are starting to become the norm and “Want to get a drink/dinner/coffee at this date and time?” 5831509222_ec29deaaaf_zis becoming less common. We’re sending dozens and dozens of text messages and creeping on each other’s Instagram pages instead of actually sitting across from someone at a table and asking them questions. We’re interpreting Snapchats and emojis. And that makes life complicated.

But I’m here to tell you one thing: you deserve a real date. 

You deserve someone who wants to make plans with you in advance, and not just when they realize they’re hungry so they text you at 6 p.m. asking you if you want to get dinner. You deserve someone who wants to meet up with you at a reasonable hour in a place that isn’t your apartment or their apartment. You deserve someone who wants to go out and experience things with you, and who will offer to pick up the bill, even if you fight them on this.

It’s easy to say that people just don’t date like this anymore, that dating in the traditional sense is done. It’s not. It doesn’t have to be and you can’t let it be. And if someone tries to tell you it is, find someone else who believes in old school dating. You deserve someone who sees the value in building a relationship this way, and who wants to put in the effort to get to know you on a deeper, non-text message, pre-midnight level.

You’re worth it. They’re worth it. We’re all worth it!

P.S. If you get a second, I’d loveeee it if you’d go check out my latest post for Hello Giggles. If you’ve ever made a friend in line for the bathroom at the bar, this one’s for you.

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  1. Hey there! I read your post at Hello Giggles and your writing was so good it led me to your blog, where I’ve been reading your posts for the last 30 minutes. You’ve got a fantastic head on your shoulders and I couldn’t agree with you more. I’m currently in the process of trying to get into freelance writing. You are my hero! 🙂 Nice to meet you virtually! I also love reading all of your thoughts on online dating. I only tried it a couple of times, but they were strange enough to never get back into it, I’m sure a lot of people can relate, haha 🙂

    • Hi Monique,
      Thank you SO much for this sweet comment. It made my day! I truly appreciate it. Great to “meet” you as well, and I wish you the best with your freelancing. It can be discouraging and lonely sometimes, but also really, really rewarding and awesome. If you ever need any encouragement, you know where to find me! Ahhh online dating. So amusing/confusing/strange. Thanks again for reading! You’re great!

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