I know some people are very anti-New Year’s resolutions. I like to make a few each year, but I try to keep them unique and not just “go to the gym more” or “be more organized.” Last year my goals were to stay focused on the positive things and to meet more people,
and I’m pretty proud that I managed to do both of those things all year. As 2014 wraps up, I’m thinking about my resolutions for 2015. Here are a few good ones that I think all twenty-somethings can focus on:
- Know when a relationship or a friendship has run its course, and be okay with that: This is something I really want to work on this year. I always try to hold onto connections that aren’t healthy or growing anymore just because we have shared history. Not good.
- Be okay with looking dumb: Sometimes you have to be okay with making a fool of yourself. A few weeks ago I went to a boot camp/dance class hybrid, knowing perfectly well that I can do roughly three pushups and have approximately four dance moves, most of which only come out when vodka tonic is in the mix. I looked like a moron. I sweat my ass off. I loved it.
- Accept things as they are for the time being: It’s easy to analyze anything and everything and to try to extrapolate. But this also makes things really, really stressful. Okay, so you went on one date and it was really fun but maybe you don’t have the same sense of humor so is it worth it to keep seeing him? You like your job but you’re scared that you won’t be able to advance as far as you want to within your company, so should you quit and find something else? Maybe these issues will become things you need to deal with eventually, but right now, are you happy? If the answer is yes, accept that and see how things unfold. You don’t need to deal with every perceived “problem” rightthisveryminute. It’s okay to take some time to analyze, think, and see how things progress before you act.
- Stop feeling so old all the time: It’s okay if you still aren’t totally sure what you want to be when you grow up. It’s okay if you haven’t met “The One” yet or if you call your mom 30 times a day. All of it’s okay. Realize that you’re still young and allowed to be figuring things out. It’s normal.
- Be more open to adventure: Take classes in things you might suck at (hence why I’m doing a painting class with my friends next month). Throw a dinner party when you’ve never cooked for anyone other than yourself before. Go on a date with someone who’s not your “type.” Go on a spontaneous road trip with friends. Comfort zones are for boring people you don’t want to get stuck talking to at cocktail parties. Don’t be one of them.
Do you have any resolutions for 2015? Let’s hear ’em!