When you’re a single person, you regularly have to field questions such as:
- You’re such a catch, why are you single?
- Have you tried online dating?
- Would you want to meet my friend/co-worker/guy who does my taxes? I actually don’t know if you have anything in common, but you’re both single so….there’s something, right?
- Are you being open-minded enough as you date?
In reality, I’m actually happy investing my time into my work and my friends and my hobbies as I try to find a relationship I can really get excited about. And yet it’s like being single is viewed as a problem that needs fixing, or at least explaining. But the people who make you feel weird about being single are the same people who say things like, “You have to love yourself before you can love anyone else” and other things of that nature.
It’s all backwards when you think about it. People who are in relationships don’t get asked why they’re in relationships when they could be single and free to do whatever they want with whomever they want. Relationship status is a food chain, and single people have become the dung beetles or the little field mice doomed to get swooped up by owls at night, even if we may feel like fierce tigers or cute little otters cracking mussels open on our chests.
Instead of analyzing people according to relationship status, why not look at them according to happiness level? I know a lot of single people who are really happy. I know a lot of people who are in relationships and are really happy. I also know a lot of people, both single and taken, who are fairly miserable. To me, if you’re content with your life, that’s what really matters. It’s not about who you are/are not cuddling with on a rainy Sunday afternoon.
Instead of inquiring about someone’s relationship status, maybe let’s redirect and find out about their outlook on life and what we, as a human race, can do to improve that outlook if it’s not as great as it could be.