This is a PSA: You deserve a real date. I know you know this, but in case you’ve forgotten or need someone else to tell you, it’s true. You deserve someone who wants to make plans in advance and who wants to do activities with you. Or, if you’re so inclined, you should ask someone else out yourself. Single people have gotten so casual about dating and it’s really sad. I’ve written about this before, but I believe it with every fiber of my being.
You deserve to be asked out.
You deserve to have someone set aside time for you and put some thought into the date.
I once had a 36-year-old man who I hadn’t yet been out with ask me to come to his house on a Saturday at midnight and “chill.” I almost threw my phone away and became the first Jewish woman to join a convent when this happened because it made me so damn depressed. First of all, I prefer to not get murdered on Saturdays, thanks. Second of all, you’re almost 40 years old. GET IT TOGETHER.
We are all worthy of a real date. It doesn’t have to be fancy. If you don’t have a lot of money to spend, that’s okay. Meet for a few drinks at an inexpensive place. Grab a coffee and walk around the park. Find free activities near you. Every city has them. Just put some thought into it and schedule it ahead of time. It’s a sign of respect and it shows you’re serious in a world that’s totally not serious about dating and relationships anymore.
I know we can all do better than “Netflix and chill” or “hey what are you up to?” on Friday at midnight. I believe in us.