There are a lot of instances in life when you have to advocate on your own behalf. When you’re applying for a job or want a raise, for instance. If you don’t talk about how awesome you are, the people in charge won’t know and you won’t get what you’re hoping for.
So when should you not have to remind people you’re awesome? When you’re hanging out with someone you have voluntarily built a relationship with. In fact, if this person is the right kind of person for you, they should be reminding you of your wonderfulness, especially when you need a little boost. If at any point this isn’t the case, it’s time to do some editing and seek out new people.
Oscar Wilde once said “never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” This applies perfectly to both friendships and romantic relationships. It’s easy to spend your time chasing people and reiterating your worth to them. You’re always the one to text that guy/girl first, hoping that they’ll want to go out on a date with you. You’re trying to break into an exclusive social circle in your city, hoping to get an invitation to the next event.
In reality, the people who are really deserving of your time are the people who require no chase at all. They’re equally as excited to have you around. They understand what you’re all about, and love you for your true, unedited self. They don’t make you feel apologetic or defensive about your flaws.
The people worthy of your energy are the ones who treat you like you’re far from ordinary, regardless of whether you need a nap or have a zit on your chin (hi, me right now) or are in the middle of a super stressful period at work. They’re just happy to be with you and that’s that. Seek out those people and hit delete on the ones who don’t make you feel that way.