The Surprisingly Non-Depressing Realizations I’ve Had After Two Years of Being Single

Today is my two-year single anniversary. My single-versary, I guess you could call it. I sort of figured it was coming up, but then I logged onto Timehop and saw a bunch of vague, semi-emo posts and I was like, “Ahhh, yep. There it is.” Being single for a long time has its depressing moments, I won’t deny that. That little voice in your head can start to get to you on a Sunday evening when you’re lonely, maybe, or when you see another engagement announcement on Facebook. But instead of thinking to myself, “Holy sh*t I’ve been single a long time. Is there something wrong with me?” I prefer to look at the positives associated with these past two unattached years. These include:

  • I’ve learned so much: About myself. About dating. About what I’m looking for in a relationship. All of it. I can honestly say I’ve learned more in the past two years than at any other period in my life.
  • I’ve gotten through some really, really crappy moments on my own and feel stronger because of it: There have been times when I’ve totally felt the solitude of being single. When I had the stomach flu, for example, or on holidays like New Year’s Eve and Valentine’s Day. Or when there’s a huge bug leering at me in my kitchen. But I got through these times on my own and I’m proud of that.
  • I made it through heartbreak and lived to tell the tale: I remember in the immediate aftermath following my breakup, I truly though my heart might shrivel up and fall out of my chest. I was in actual, physical pain. Over time this pain started to subside and eventually I realized that I would make it through. It was a tough thing to experience, but I’m sort of glad I did. Sort of.
  • It’s let me get to know myself: No more relying on someone else for built-in weekend entertainment. I’ve had to work hard to make friends in a new city and I’ve had to find activities I enjoy doing on my own. It took some adjusting, but I’m proud of the relationships I’ve developed.

I’m going to celebrate my single-versary by spending the night doing things I want to do. I’m going to cook what I’m in the mood for and then I’ll binge watch Friday Night Lights without worrying about whether the programming on the TV is in sync with what my significant other would like to be watching. Oh yeah, and then I’m going to go sleep like a starfish in the middle of my bed and not have to deal with anyone’s snoring. Being single definitely has its perks.

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