Probably eight Valentine’s Days ago when I was in early college, I let a boy I didn’t really know take me out. We went to Pizzeria Uno and shoved slices into our faces in silence because we had nothing in common, we were just happy to have plans on a holiday when you feel super pressured to have a date. From that point forward I made a vow to myself not to make Valentine’s Day plans with someone I didn’t really know just so I could say I had them. You know how they say it’s better to be alone than in bad company? Yeah, that.
This Valentine’s Day I’m single and I honestly don’t care. I have no dread about the holiday. I’m doing a brunch with my friends during the day, and then I’ll probably make my favorite dinner, drink some wine, watch 37 episodes of “Friday Night Lights” and call it a day.
Here’s the thing about Valentine’s Day: it doesn’t matter if you’re single. I know it feels like it’s important and you’re inferior if you don’t have a hot date lined up with the man/woman of your dreams. In reality? Not true. Your relationship status during an arbitrary holiday created by Hallmark has no direct impact on your worth as a person.
If you’re single heading into Valentine’s Day, you can let yourself feel sad for a few minutes. That’s permitted. But once that’s done, promise me you just won’t care about it anymore. If you have other single friends, get together and do something fun. Make dinner and drink wine. If everyone else has gone to the dark side and coupled up (I’m joking) then be okay having a relaxing night in watching what you want to watch and not feeling guilty if it’s “rot your brain” quality TV.
We talk about this on an episode of my podcast The Margarita Confessionals, and I think it’s so important to remember. If you’re in a relationship on February 14th, awesome! Shower your boo with love and attention. Enjoy the roses you receive at work. If not, you’re still awesome and should treat yourself and/or your friends to a relaxing, fun evening and appreciate the different kinds of love in your life, even if it’s not romantic at this exact moment.